Experiencing Death

Death is a part of life. We all know this, and to some extent, we are aware of it. But it has never been more evident in my personal life until recently. It seems that death is more real, more present, in my life. It's scary to think of how near it is. Some people might think, aren't you a Christian? You should find comfort in death knowing that you, or the person close to you, will be with Christ in heaven. Which is true, I do find comfort in it. But it doesn't make it any less painful, any less heartbreaking.

Death, no matter how much headway or lack thereof, is a loss. A loss of a relationship you treasure, of opportunities to grow and be better, of moments to spend with one another, and of love given and received. Death is letting go of a person, regardless if you are ready or not. Death is surrendering the fact that there are things beyond your control. Death is accepting that love is essential but it's not always sufficient. That love is worth every effort but it's not always enough to keep you together. Death is a reminder that our time on earth is short. Wether you lived to be 50 or 100, it is never enough.

But experiencing the death of someone close to you is not just about pain and heartbreak. Death removes any resentment, anger, frustration, and other negative emotions you might have against that person. It leads us to focus on all the good things you experienced together. How they have impacted your life and helped you become who you are today and vice versa. Death teaches us how to be better, to be more intentional on how we live our life. Realizing what or who we need to prioritize instead of thinking there's always tomorrow. Sometimes there isn't. Death is a reminder of how our lives are limited, and we don't know when it will end. And so we should laugh more, love deeply and care unceasingly.

Death is a part of life. It's painful and beautiful at the same time. How about you? What have you realized in your experience of loss?

I dedicate this blog to Todoy. Who lived his life full of laughter and love. We will miss your dad jokes and karaoke singing. Family gatherings won't be the same without you.